The Upside-Down Kingdom
Let’s be real—loving people is easy when they love us back. But what about the people who annoy us, hurt us, or even hate us? Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:43–48 don’t give us the luxury of loving only when it’s convenient. He calls us to a radical kind of love—a love that mirrors God Himself.
When “Love Your Neighbor” Gets Twisted
In Jesus’ day, the Pharisees had taken God’s command to “love thy neighbor” (Leviticus 19:18) and twisted it to mean “love your fellow Israelite” or “love those who are like you.” Then, to make matters worse, they gave themselves permission to hate their enemies. But that wasn’t God’s heart at all.
In fact, the very same passage in Leviticus says, “But the stranger that dwelleth with you shall be unto you as one born among you, and thou shalt love him as thyself” (Leviticus 19:34). God never limited love to people we like. The Pharisees shrunk God’s definition of love and expanded their excuses for hate.
Sound familiar?
We do the same thing when we justify bitterness toward people who hurt us or act like we’re better than people who are different. But Jesus isn’t having any of that. He calls us higher.
The Call to Love Our Enemies
“But I say unto you, Love your enemies…” (Matthew 5:44). That’s not a suggestion—it’s a command. Jesus doesn’t leave us guessing what that looks like either. He gives three clear, practical ways to live this out:
- “Bless them that curse you.” When someone uses their words to hurt you, don’t lash back. Speak kindness. A soft answer really does turn away wrath (Proverbs 15:1), and bitter words don’t fix anything. When you bless instead of curse, you’re not being weak—you’re being like Christ.
- “Do good to them that hate you.” Love isn’t just a feeling. It’s shown by action. If someone makes your life difficult, find a way to serve them anyway. That annoying neighbor? Bake them cookies. That classmate who always mocks your faith? Offer to help them study. That’s love in action.
- “Pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you.” Praying for someone who’s hurt you might feel impossible. But prayer changes your heart. Ask God to bless them, not to punish them. That’s the kind of love Jesus showed from the cross: “Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34).
Love That Looks Like Our Father’s
Why love our enemies like this? Because that’s how our Father loves us.
Jesus said we do this “that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven” (Matthew 5:45). He’s not saying we earn salvation by loving others—salvation is by faith in Christ alone. But when we love like this, we’re showing the family resemblance.
God sends sunshine and rain on everyone—the good and the evil (Matthew 5:45). He doesn’t reserve kindness only for those who deserve it. That’s grace. And when we love those who don’t deserve it, we’re walking in our Father’s footsteps.
Jesus challenges us with this question: “What do ye more than others?” (Matthew 5:47). If our love only extends to those who are easy to love, we’re no different than the world. Even people with no love for God are kind to their friends. Real love goes further.
Perfect Love Isn’t Easy—but It’s the Goal
Jesus closes this section with a powerful command: “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect” (Matthew 5:48). That doesn’t mean sinless perfection—it means complete, mature love. Love without loopholes. Love that doesn’t quit when it gets uncomfortable.
We may not love perfectly every time. But that’s the direction Jesus calls us to move in—toward a love that blesses, does good, and prays, even when everything in us wants to retaliate or withdraw.
So, What About You?
Who do you need to love right now that you’ve been avoiding, ignoring, or even hating?
A classmate?
A parent?
A political figure?
Someone who used to be your friend?
Jesus isn’t asking you to feel warm fuzzies. He’s asking you to act like your Father in heaven. And that starts with how you speak, how you serve, and how you pray.
When you love like that, you’re not just keeping rules—you’re shining God’s heart into a dark, bitter world. That’s what it means to be a Kingdom citizen.
This Article is a part of a series
The Upside-Down Kingdom
Bobby Bosler is director of Thee Generation and pastor of Fellowship Baptist Church in Fairmont, WV. He, his wife, Abi, and their four children traveled the country for 14 years in evangelism, reaching teens with the gospel and conducting revival meetings.
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